Comments on: Nurture Your Relationships with Positive Flooding http://www.annezelenka.com/2007/09/nurture-your-relationships-with-positive-flooding a blog about the connected age Sun, 23 Nov 2008 09:50:13 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: james governor http://www.annezelenka.com/2007/09/nurture-your-relationships-with-positive-flooding#comment-2176 james governor Mon, 26 Nov 2007 15:24:26 +0000 http://www.annezelenka.com/2007/09/nurture-your-relationships-with-positive-flooding#comment-2176 fwiw- I am doing some blog-reading today, first time in ages. turns out you're in my top five must reads fwiw- I am doing some blog-reading today, first time in ages. turns out you’re in my top five must reads

]]> By: Best of Feeds - 22 links - programming, blogging, tips, javascript, rails « Internet Duct Tape http://www.annezelenka.com/2007/09/nurture-your-relationships-with-positive-flooding#comment-1614 Best of Feeds - 22 links - programming, blogging, tips, javascript, rails « Internet Duct Tape Sun, 23 Sep 2007 17:25:16 +0000 http://www.annezelenka.com/2007/09/nurture-your-relationships-with-positive-flooding#comment-1614 [...] [LIFEHACKS] Nurture Your Relationships with Positive Flooding [...] […] [LIFEHACKS] Nurture Your Relationships with Positive Flooding […]

]]> By: Michael Clarke http://www.annezelenka.com/2007/09/nurture-your-relationships-with-positive-flooding#comment-1594 Michael Clarke Tue, 18 Sep 2007 16:57:09 +0000 http://www.annezelenka.com/2007/09/nurture-your-relationships-with-positive-flooding#comment-1594 Now there's a post I really need to take onboard! I shudder to think what the ratio at our company is, let alone my own personal one. A timely admonishment! Now there’s a post I really need to take onboard! I shudder to think what the ratio at our company is, let alone my own personal one. A timely admonishment!

]]> By: links for 2007-09-18 « Scott Mark http://www.annezelenka.com/2007/09/nurture-your-relationships-with-positive-flooding#comment-1593 links for 2007-09-18 « Scott Mark Tue, 18 Sep 2007 15:25:44 +0000 http://www.annezelenka.com/2007/09/nurture-your-relationships-with-positive-flooding#comment-1593 [...] Anne Truitt Zelenka » Nurture Your Relationships with Positive Flooding positive flooding good (tags: productivity communication) [...] […] Anne Truitt Zelenka » Nurture Your Relationships with Positive Flooding positive flooding good (tags: productivity communication) […]

]]> By: Christopher Mahan http://www.annezelenka.com/2007/09/nurture-your-relationships-with-positive-flooding#comment-1581 Christopher Mahan Mon, 17 Sep 2007 20:40:30 +0000 http://www.annezelenka.com/2007/09/nurture-your-relationships-with-positive-flooding#comment-1581 Excellent post! I use this in single communication. Let's say I want to tell someone they screwed up (which is rare) I'll wrap it up in a communication package that's gushing with praise and empathy, so that the "pill" is swallowed and feelings don't get hurt. In the end, criticizing is not about getting something off my chest, it's about making things better long-term, and that won't happen if trust and friendship breaks down because of nagging. The way to flood is to remember to "keep in touch on a high level" because frankly, as human beings we have a lot in common until we get into the nitty-gritty of everyday living, and if you spend all your time there, it's easy to find things to nitpick about. Excellent post!

I use this in single communication. Let’s say I want to tell someone they screwed up (which is rare) I’ll wrap it up in a communication package that’s gushing with praise and empathy, so that the “pill” is swallowed and feelings don’t get hurt.

In the end, criticizing is not about getting something off my chest, it’s about making things better long-term, and that won’t happen if trust and friendship breaks down because of nagging.

The way to flood is to remember to “keep in touch on a high level” because frankly, as human beings we have a lot in common until we get into the nitty-gritty of everyday living, and if you spend all your time there, it’s easy to find things to nitpick about.

]]> By: Anne Z http://www.annezelenka.com/2007/09/nurture-your-relationships-with-positive-flooding#comment-1579 Anne Z Mon, 17 Sep 2007 17:36:47 +0000 http://www.annezelenka.com/2007/09/nurture-your-relationships-with-positive-flooding#comment-1579 Thanks Elliott! I was thinking about this research and wondering how I would ever count up to the right amount of positives. That's when I realized the exact number didn't really matter as long as I get to a LOT more positive than negative. Hence the idea of positive flooding. Thanks Elliott! I was thinking about this research and wondering how I would ever count up to the right amount of positives. That’s when I realized the exact number didn’t really matter as long as I get to a LOT more positive than negative. Hence the idea of positive flooding.

]]> By: Elliott Pesut. http://www.annezelenka.com/2007/09/nurture-your-relationships-with-positive-flooding#comment-1578 Elliott Pesut. Mon, 17 Sep 2007 16:53:15 +0000 http://www.annezelenka.com/2007/09/nurture-your-relationships-with-positive-flooding#comment-1578 A fantastically written blog post. The last paragraph header - "Don’t count, just flood positive" keeps echoing in my head this morning. :) Thanks for helping us all start the Monday off with a refreshed perspective on how we can positively effect those around us. :) A fantastically written blog post. The last paragraph header - “Don’t count, just flood positive” keeps echoing in my head this morning. :) Thanks for helping us all start the Monday off with a refreshed perspective on how we can positively effect those around us. :)

]]> By: Jeff Barr’s Blog » Links for Monday, September 17, 2007 http://www.annezelenka.com/2007/09/nurture-your-relationships-with-positive-flooding#comment-1576 Jeff Barr’s Blog » Links for Monday, September 17, 2007 Mon, 17 Sep 2007 08:56:15 +0000 http://www.annezelenka.com/2007/09/nurture-your-relationships-with-positive-flooding#comment-1576 [...] Anne Truit Zelenka:Nurture Your Relationships With Positive Flooding - “Perhaps the most important tool you have for keeping your relationships in good shape is positive flooding. You need to keep the bulk of interactions with those you care about positive; in fact, you probably need far more positive interactions than you think.“ [...] […] Anne Truit Zelenka:Nurture Your Relationships With Positive Flooding - “Perhaps the most important tool you have for keeping your relationships in good shape is positive flooding. You need to keep the bulk of interactions with those you care about positive; in fact, you probably need far more positive interactions than you think.“ […]

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